Still I Press On

When you are going through a tough time, especially following the loss of a loved one.  It could also be the loss of a job, or perhaps your health may be deteriorating or you may be experiencing financial difficulties, the tendency is to feel downcast and abandoned especially if you have been praying over the issue for a very long time.

Sometimes, it may even seem like your problems are getting worse instead of getting better. The key is not to give up Hope, try not to focus on what you see or what you feel BUT keep trusting and believing God to get you through the storm.

I love how the Message bible puts it in 2 Corinthians 4:16-18

“So we’re not giving up. How could we! Even though on the outside it often looks like things are falling apart on us, on the inside, where God is making new life, not a day goes by without his unfolding grace. These hard times are small potatoes compared to the coming good times, the lavish celebration prepared for us. There’s far more here than meets the eye. The things we see now are here today, gone tomorrow. But the things we can’t see now will last forever.”

I pray that despite your brokenness, your wounds, your heaviness, your weariness and loneliness, you will find strength and comfort in the promises of God and keep holding on until the sun starts shining in your life.  It will be soon.

#BeEncouraged

 

Light in the Darkness (Part II)

1st Thess. 5:5 – “Ye are all the children of light, and the children of the day: we are not of the night, nor of darkness”.

As children of God, we carry the light of God in us and should influence the world around us by bringing them Hope in the midst of chaos.

One of my favourite Sunday school songs growing up was ‘This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine’.  The words of that song are relevant regardless of your age, your past and your pain.  We are holding a light and we are to let it shine! Read more

Reach out & Touch Somebody’s Hand

Most of my blog posts are written to encourage those grieving from the loss of a dear one.  However, I wanted to reach out to those who might be acquainted with the bereaved. You may be a friend, work colleague, member of the same church etc.

The truth is, most of us know someone who is going through a tough time right now, following the death of a loved one.  If not, you will at some point in life.  It’s simply the nature of life.  There’s a time to be born and a time to die (Ecclesiastes 3:2). We grieve the death of our loved ones because we love them and our hearts are broken from our loss.

How do we comfort those who are grieving?

Most people stay away from the bereaved because they worry about not knowing exactly what to say.  Read more

Light in the darkness

In my book ‘Letters of Hope’, I mentioned in Chapter 9 how I used to dread night time following my mum’s death. This was when my problems or burdens seemed bigger than they really were. I’d lay down and start thinking all sorts of negative things. More often than not, when I eventually fell asleep, the result would be nightmares.

Darkness can mean different things to various people depending on their circumstances. It can signify any or all of the following:

  • Danger
  • Loneliness
  • Being lost or being in a state of confusion
  • Oppression
  • Fear of dying or of the unknown

Read more

What I learnt from the BET show

I was watching the BET awards with my husband recently and there was a special award given to Smokie Robinson – The Soul Legend!

Prior to him being given this award – there was a short clip of some of his most popular songs. The voice over lady mentioned Smokie’s songs will pass the test of time simply because we will all experience love, heartbreak and whatever life throws at us.

Read more

Great Role Models

I once heard someone say that many orphans and bereaved children don’t succeed in life due to a lack of parental guidance and cover. That has definitely not been my story and it doesn’t have to be yours either.

There’s a saying that it “takes a village to raise a child” – that has most certainly been my experience. Yes, there’s a place for parental guidance but there are so many other people that God has placed in your life that can make a positive impact on your development.

Read more

Dark Nights

The Dark nights or storms we experience in life can vary from the loss of a dear one, a prolonged period of uncertainty, perhaps even a job loss, difficult or broken relationships, challenges with one’s health or that of a loved one.  During these seasons, it is likely that we become depressed, we may experience doubts or even distance ourselves from God, depending on our personal relationship with God.

We may start to lose Hope especially if we have unanswered questions!

Everyone will experience these ‘dark’ seasons at some point, No one is immune from it. The nature of our storms may vary and even the duration may vary, however we must remember that after the storm comes the CALM. Storms do NOT last forever.  What we must learn to do is prepare as much as we can and hold on to God.

Read more

Parenting as a Motherless Mother!

Please accept my apologies that it’s been a little quiet here, I should have posted this last week Friday but life got in the way, I’m hoping you understand and will forgive me 😉

So here we go, I was privileged to be given the opportunity to write a guest blog post on Sarah Hamaker’s website.  Sarah Hamaker is a Parenting Coach, I have been following since the start of this year, she has inspired by Parenting in many ways and will continue to do so as we share similar values.

If you are a Motherless Daughter aspiring to be a mother someday, or you’re a motherless mother needing some encouragement, then this post is certainly for you.

I encourage you to read on and share with those who are dear to you.

Happy Reading.

http://sarahhamaker.com/wp/?p=2545

 

 

#BeEncouraged

 

Grieving is Natural!

It’s the price we pay for our love for others. The closer you are to someone, the more likely you are to mourn and grieve their death. In my case, the pain I experienced after losing my Mum was much greater than the experience of losing my Dad for various reasons (See Interview I did last month), however one specific reason was because I had grown closer to my mum, obviously having had her around for much longer.

Shock, disbelief, confusion, depression, emptiness, and anger are all part of the grieving  process, and I share more about these emotions in my book – ‘Letters of Hope – Encouragement for the Bereaved Child’

Read more

Good Good Father

He’s Good Good Father!

I’m not talking about my biological father, although he was a very good man. I was unfortunate to have only known him for 6 years before he passed away (Dance With My Father)

I am talking about my Heavenly Father!

You see for me, it’s easy to talk about God as my Father, because He has been constant in my life.  When I think about a Father – The thoughts swimming through my head are:

  • Provider
  • Protector
  • Deliverer/Saviour like a Superhero kinda guy
  • Teacher
  • Helper
  • Friend

Read more