We often experience unexpected detours in our lives. Situations that we couldn’t have predicted or adequately prepare for. Losses we didn’t see coming… so how do we deal with such situations when we encounter them?
Few weeks ago, as I made my way to work after the school runs, I was in a hurry to get to work in time for a meeting. I was on my usual route, when I suddenly noticed a roadblock as I approached a major junction. An accident had just occurred and the Police had blocked off the road. I panicked. I knew no other route. It wasn’t an area I was familiar with. And I had to make a decision quickly because cars were starting to pile up, traffic light had changed. Do I turn left or right?
- My instincts said to turn left
- The cars ahead of me turned left
I followed them still panicking, but trusting that they must somehow be familiar with this route.
I tried to get my phone out of my bag so I could use google maps, alas that was a challenge and I couldn’t find the most appropriate place to park on the narrow lanes, so I kept following the cars in front until eventually I got my phone out, placed it on the windscreen and voila ready to follow Google maps instructions.
My mind was now at peace, some of the cars I was following had veered off a different path, some were still ahead but I was now comfortable with a guide right in my car. Eventually I found myself back on my usual route and I made it to work just in time.
Whilst on the motorway, I pondered on the range of emotions I felt during this detour and I could somewhat relate it to the loss of a loved one.
- First I was concerned about those involved in the accident, then
- I got angry that my plans had been changed
- I felt lost on the narrow lanes, anxious I didn’t know which way to turn and what laid ahead of the routes I had taken not out of choice, I was also worried I’d be very late to work
- Happy when I found my phone which gave me clear directions and I found myself back on the usual route
- Relieved I made it to work just in time.
How did I cope with this unexpected detour?
- By following my instincts
- Following others who appear to have either had similar experiences in the past or at least familiar with the area
- Getting out my map .
The Bible is our GPS when faced with unexpected turns in life. Stay calm and trust God to lead you. He can bring others your way too, to hold your hand through it all, especially those who have also had similar life experiences.
I now know a new route to work should I face another diversion. That’s the thing about life, we learn from our experiences and we are better equipped for the future.
Despite the detour, I made it to work. Despite your detours in life, God can still get you to your expected end according to His will and purpose for you.
So next time, you face a ‘detour’ in life, STAY CALM and TRUST the greatest tour guide.
Blessings x
{Image courtsey of Jamie Street_Unsplash}
