2019 is swiftly going by…we’re already at the end of the very first month
So much has happened in my world and I’m sure the same can be said for yours.
Some of you may have experienced bereavement leading up to this year or even in this month, please accept my condolences. I pray that you will experience peace that surpasses your understanding, even when life doesn’t make sense, may your hope for the future be restored and renewed.
One of the many questions I get asked about grief is “when will this pain end?” or another variation is “Does it get easier in time?”
So I’d like to share my personal experience with you 🙂
It has been over twenty years since my mum died, I actually have to think deeply to recount the years… okay so it was 25 years last summer.
Have I forgotten about her? Ofcourse not
Is she part of my daily thoughts? Not anymore
Have I had seasons where I thought of her continuously? Yes
Is my loss easier to cope with now? Yes
About 5 years ago when I had my son, I had moments when I was depressed and desperately wanted my mum to be around me, for physical support as well as emotional support.
Two years later when I had my second child, my experience was completely different, I guess motherhood was no longer daunting, I wasn’t crying endlessly wishing my mum would just show up.. lol.. like seriously?!! I would scream and run as fast as my legs would go if she turned up
Why am I sharing this? What seems insurmountable today will not be the case tomorrow, it does getter better with time. I know so. I’ve learnt so and I believe if it can happen for me, it will get better for you too. #HoldOn
Do take one day at a time and allow yourself to grieve, go through the process, the emotions.
No two people grieve in exactly the same way and it may take you longer to accept your loss. It may take you longer than your family members, but that doesn’t mean you’re coping better or worse….it just means you are being YOU.
If you would like resources on coping with grief, either for yourself or someone else including young children, please reach out via email: hello@lettersofhope.org.uk
#BeEncouraged
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